Judgement

Judgement: a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion.

There are many decisions that are made when one is being treated for infertility. If the standard route of IVF is not successful there are some more decisions that can be made--I.E. sperm donor, egg donor or surrogate. Or you can decide to pursue adoption and then the decision making starts all over again. Will you pursue International? Domestic? Foster care? An infant or an older child? Will the child look like you or will you be open to a different race? Will you meet the birth parents? And the list goes on.

Both roads, although different, bring people closer to their goal of becoming parents. And both roads bring out the myriad of people who offer their opinions on the process (usually formed without having all the information necessary).

Sometimes these judgements are said to your face and sometimes not.

My message today is this:
Do not judge someone on their decisions until you have walked in their shoes.
Try it. You might like it.

Love much,
xob